Ultimate Career Lifestyle big concept, or small idea in the scheme of what matters most in our lives? Living your UCL really just affords you the opportunity to experience and live your values.
One of my surprisingly new spiritual role model’s Stan summarizes his values as The Four F’s: Faith, Family, Future and Fun (I think that’s the order). Every move he makes is for those four F’s. Reading his I reflect on mine. I foolishly boast to myself about how in touch I am with them and how they're posted all over this site. (See -Our Principles: Be real, be relevant, give first, take risk etc….) Not included on the site's list are My Four S’s: Spiritually, Sexiness, Smiling and Starbucks (in that order) .
Someone the other day said to me “You have it all, a great career, beautiful family, amazing friends and the coolest clothes.” Humbly, I replied with a smile, thank you and returned compliment. Beneath the smiles I tried to hide an emptiness. You see, as “kid in a candy store happy” as I am, there are still pieces of me that feel vacant. Specifically my first S, Spirituality and I'm learning that over compensating life with the others S’s doesn't fill that void.
Now, I know it’s not good to talk religion or politics in a forum like this but my guess is no one here expects me to be a proper etiquette rule follower. So, if you’re not up for it stop reading here.
You see, growing up attending countless number of churches our family was always on trend with the latest religious “fads”. One year we’d celebrate Halloween, the next year we wouldn’t. One year we were allowed to watch the Smurfs, the next year we’re not. By the time I was on my own I was “over” doing the whole church thing. Even so, being the conflicted and hungry student I was (and am) I developed a fascination for studying different religious histories, concepts and beliefs (my personal library has over 100 books on religion and/or spirituality topics). I have a strong respect for anyone who can commit their whole being with the level of faith that most religion requires.
Ultimately, I came to the conclusion that it’s about a spiritual relationship with a higher power and the religion is just the brand. Unfortunately, I’ve always been to analytical in this area for my own good. I go to a church who’s mission is “to help those who struggle with faith live like Jesus daily”. I feel lucky that they’ll have me.
Here is what I’ve learned in my Career that translates to my personal spiritual journey:
• Ultimately the Relationship is more important than the brand. Again, it’s about the spiritual relationship the religion is just the brand.
• Allowing others to be the authentic, unapologetic them, believing in their potential and greater good allows you to have a greater impact on the individual. Too often “religious” folks appear to isolate themselves or be judgemental towards the very people that probably need their "faith" the most.
• Career Mentors are valuable. Spiritual mentors are invaluable.
• Success comes when you can let go of control and believe in others. Serenity comes when you can let go of control and believe in a higher power (something I long to do).
Today Nadia, my spiritual inspiration, and mentor if she’ll have me (you could imagine what a project I'd be) shared this song with me, Empty Me. Chris Sligh.
Listening to it again tonight inspired me to pray... maybe for the first time, authentically....